I find myself drawn to writers who write about the immigrant, or second generation immigrant experience, who have to negotiate the boundary between the new culture they desperately want to fit into, and the parent culture that they can’t, or their parents won’t let them, let go of. I’m thinking of people like Philip Roth…
Category: Thinking Out Loud
How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity and the Hidden power of character – Paul Tough
When I was reading How Children Succeed: Git, Curiosity and the Hidden Power of Character, a family member said she couldn’t imagine how I continue to find these kinds of books interesting. I took this as a fair comment about where my interests lie, and that they may not overlap with too many others. As…
“How do I keep my child in shul??”
I was speaking to a parent this week who struggles to keep her son in shul. We did the blame game at first: it’s the shul’s fault for not offering enough or the right tefilah options for kids; it’s the parents’ fault for not insisting that their children stay with them during tefilah; it’s the…
The Friction of Learning
I think in the last 12 years I’ve had about one summer ‘off’, which is to say, a summer where I wasn’t doing a Masters, PhD, HOS training, or HOS mentoring. When I had that summer break it was, despite my best efforts, not a great break, or as my wife likes to remind me,…
The Lowland – Jhump Lahiri
Even as I finished this book a few weeks ago, The Lowland, by Jhumpa Lahiri, continues to hold something over me, hovering in the back of my mind and heart. It left an unexpectedly strong emotional resonance that drew me in and left an impression. The title of the book reflects the neighborhood in Calcutta…
Being Together – The Netivot Shabbaton
I wanted to get some words down in the afterglow of the incredible Netivot Unity Shabbaton. It was even more wonderful than I could have imagined, entirely fulfilling the hope I had back in March when I raised the idea as a way to use the kedusha of Shabbat to bring our community back together. …